Safety and Security

“ … and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart. You will not fear the terror of night, nor the arrow that flies by day,” (Psalm 91:4-5)

Life in America has not been the same since that fatal day on September 11, 2001. The world was turned upside down. The biggest loss is our sense of national and personal safety and security. All of us who repeatedly watched pictures of airplanes hitting the twin towers on TV felt unsafe, insecure and vulnerable.

After September 11, we immediately thought about our family and friends. Many people flocked to churches for comfort. Busy people remembered to treasure time with their loved ones. Parents helped their kids to deal with the catastrophe -- keeping their normal daily routines, sharing prayers, listening to music, sharing meals, hugging, and holding hands. We were reminded to talk with our children and teenagers about what they were hearing, seeing, and feeling.

Children feel safe with people they can trust. Don't let the emotional security of your children be hijacked by rejection, betrayal, abandonment, and unfulfilled promises. Show them consistent CARE by relating to them with compassion, acceptance, respect and empathy. Keep your promises. Say and mean "I am sorry, please forgive me" when you have hurt or offended someone.

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