Dealing with the Loss of a Child

"The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." (Psalm 34:18)

Just heard the news that the son of Indianapolis Colts football coach was found dead in his apartment. Tony Dungy's eldest son James was 18-year-old, 6'7" tall, and attending college in Florida. The cause of death seems to be suicide. Closer to home, a couple in the choir I used to sing with just lost their daughter (to an accidental choking) a few days ago. How do parents deal with the death of a child?

All I can say is that grieving is normal, even for Christians, and recovery takes time. Stay relational rather than rational as you talk with them. Listen with empathy and don't try to answer the question WHY. Give them time to grieve and cry. They need your prayers, comfort, and support. Listen to them and walk alongside as they go through stages of denial, anger, bargaining and depression before acceptance and forgiveness. I feel humbled in situation where I am inadequate. Thankfully, with my faith, I can count on hope and help that only God can provide.

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