When Good Man Are Tempted

I felt sad when I heard yet another marriage was destroyed by an affair. It is not uncommon for men to be tempted sexually because they are so visual. For women and men, the feeling of "falling in love" can be deceiving. Living in fantasy provides temporary relief from facing the reality of whatever pains and stresses we are going through in life. Never think you (or your spouse) are immune from temptation and don't assume there is no way out.

"These things happened to them as examples and were written down as warnings for us, on whom the fulfillment of the ages has come. So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall! No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it" (1 Corinthians 10:11-13).

The saddest part is that Christian couples do not take proper actions at the earliest signs of danger (e.g. when you are feeling unhappy in your own marriage, career, or life). Do you believe that God can help you? Do you believe Jesus understands? Do you try to play God?

"For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need." (Hebrews 4:15-16)

The best time to stop something is never let it happen. "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body." (1 Corinthians 6:18)

Not understanding what to do? There is a book called "When Good Men Are Tempted" by Bill Perkins. Check it out for yourself, your husband, and your sons.

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